After taking a 2 month “sabbatical”, I am glad to be back on Sweet Vanilla Bean! So, let’s get right to it. My last four posts came from something I wrote entitled "5 Ground Rules For a Better Marriage." Those 5 marital ground rules that can reinforce your marriage today include:
1) Never go to bed angry.
2) Say “I’m sorry.” always!
3) Go on a date at least twice a
month.
4) Say “I love you” often!
5) Hold hands in public.
In my last post entitled how to make your words mean
something, I shared the importance of positive words towards your spouse. Life
giving words such as saying “I love you” often will cause you and your spouse
to appreciate each other rather than tear each other down. Your marriage
benefits from positive words and will change the course of your relationship
every time.
One of the most important points from this post was, I
believe you won’t even get to the showing love if you never do the saying of
love. Ironically, the glaring difference between husband and wife is the
husband says, “Tell me you love me.” The wife says, “Show me you love me.” This
difference poses a conflict at times. On the other hand, if handled carefully
and intentionally you can use this difference for you and not against you. This
leads us to today’s post entitled, “How to Show Your Love Matters.”
One of the practical ways you can show your love matters is
to hold hands in public. Now, I understand that there might be some out there
that say, “Our marriage relationship is private so I don’t like to flaunt it publicly to others.” I respect anyone who holds to this conviction.
Conversely, to be clear, holding hands in public for example is much different
than making out in public.
They say a simple touch goes a long ways. In a marriage
relationship, a simple touch goes far beyond any projected distance. In fact,
something like holding hands in public solidifies your relationship and has the
potential of breaking out of the marriage mundane.
Here are 3 quick tips on the importance of showing your love
matters:
Love is a workout. This is not an endorsement for Olivia
Newton John’s classic, Let’s get physical. Rather, similar to working out in a
gym or jogging a few laps around the park 3 times a week, whenever you work
hard and consistently at something, eventually you will see results.
Demonstrating love is not a one-time thing. It is an on-going workout. When you
show your love towards your spouse beyond February 14th for example, you will
see the results you have always longed for.
Don’t give up in well doing. If your marriage relationship
is on the rocks right now, something like holding hands in public may be a
monumental task. Maybe for you, something like smiling at each other may be a
first step towards forgiveness and reconciliation. Either way, showing love to
each other is something that never ends. With this said, don’t give up even if
it’s a “small thing.”
The small things matter. Showing your love can take on all
kinds of forms. I suggest that whenever you do the small things, your marriage
relationship takes on a strong shelter. They say, “Dogs are not man’s best
friend; flowers are.” Try showing you love your wife by giving her flowers
without being in the doghouse and see the surprise on her face that will go a
long way!
Try out these 3 tips this week and see your marriage
relationship grow stronger than ever before. Showing your love is an on-going
priority. Work it into your everyday and see your marriage blossom into an
enjoyable relationship.
Cheers,
Rob Lane
Marriage Mechanic
Rob Lane
Marriage Mechanic
Nice to have Marriage Mechanic is back!
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